While some of us do our filtering online and are selective about
who we go on dates with, some of us are better at filtering dates
on a personal, offline level. What this means for some women is a
seemingly endless succession of first dates - some outright bad,
some simply mildly disappointing. If you're the sort of person who
sits at home alone wishing for a single first date, this problem
can appear as "tragic" as a millionaire complaining about having a
choice of too many sports cars, but it's a real problem for many
women. First date fatigue can set in, causing one to not only miss
out on potentially compatible partners but also to appear
distracted and bored on a date that could have otherwise gone
well.
So for all of you out there who seem to be having too many dates
and are beginning to feel a bit fed up of it all, here are some
tips to keep things interesting.
Vary your locations
If you're a serial first dater, you probably have a preferred
first date location already. It may be one pub or café in
particular where you feel right at home or it may be the concept of
going for a drink and then some food. Choosing something radically
(or subtly) different can make the thought of going on "yet another
date" more interesting even before you've met your date, so you're
less likely to turn up feeling like you're going to work.
Take it easy
If you've been out of the loop for a while and have recently
joined a dating site, it can be really fun to line up dates one
after the other. But while this will be entertaining for a while,
after a week or so, you may feel the need to just not see anyone at
all. If you know it takes you a while to find a partner, space out
your dates to two or three a week. It may not get you the superfast
results you'd envisioned, but then again, neither would hiding at
home after too many dates. Also, avoid heavy boozing - you don't
want your dates to become a nasty hangovers you'll need a break
from.
Keep at it
The bad news is that some aspects of a first date will always be
the same. You'll need to accept the fact that the human mating
dance is a pretty standard thing. So yes, you'll discuss your exes
(in moderation!), your coming out story, possibly some stuff about
gender and politics. The thing to remember is that when you meet
the right person, the similarities in topics won't be on your mind
at all. Instead, you will be concentrating on how different she is
from all the others in wonderful and exciting ways. Remember this
as you're thinking about whether or not to go on yet another date,
because more often than not, we feel the most resistance just
before the most important events in our lives.
It's best to push through and give the next person in your life
a chance, rather than stay home and miss out because you've been on
so many dates.
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