Dear Hot Stuff,
My girlfriend and I are used to having great, great sex and a lot
of it. But recently she's been having some problems getting
excited. Physically I mean. I'm sad; I hope it's not because of me
but obviously I can't stop thinking that it is. What do you
think?
Alexandra, Manchester
Dear Moist in Manchester,
Wetness, wetness, where for art thou wetness?
Wonderful stuff, isn't it? Some women have too much of it. Some
women have too little. Where does it come from, where does it go?
How come sometimes it arrives in a flash, a mere kiss on the lips
enough to spark a veritable deluge down below. How come sometimes
it can be so illusive, both parties naked as babies and not a
drop…
It's a slippy issue.
Many factors can contribute to arousal problems Moist, but I think
there is very little risk that you are the cause. If you have
already had successful, fabulous dripping-wet-through sex, there is
no reason to believe your girlfriend's dry patch has your name on
it.
From stress and fatigue to infections and allergic reactions;
there's a wide and exotic variety of reasons why one might
experience problems with wet. The solutions are just as
diverse-anything from a good night's sleep to medical cream to a
decent lube could provide the answer…
But tell me Moist, how has your girlfriend reacted to the issue,
is she mortified with embarrassment or more don't carish? She
should be neither. Arousal issues are common and many women have
experienced and will experience them at some point, so no need to
be shy. On the other end of the spectrum, she needs to care,
wetness is healthy and an absence of wet may indicate a, possibly
serious, medical issue.
If she's still up for sex, try a high quality lube (available from
the DIVA Direct website…) Here's a handy
link! Hot ones, tickly ones, cold ones, gosh, they do things
that traditional wet can't even dream of!
Make sure that whatever happens Moist, your girlfriend figures the
problem out as soon as possible before resentment, misunderstanding
and frustration kick in for both of you. Before sex (and your
relationship,) drip, drip, drip slowly away…
