Dear Hot Stuff,
I'm a straight woman who has been curious for a while
now about conducting a relationship with another woman. I've had
sex and sort-of relationships with girls before (in university) but
never really gone so far as to actually enter into some sort of
long-term, loving union with any of them. I'm not quite sure where
to begin with it all though... Could you give me the 'lowdown' as
Lizzie from Birmingham
Dear Bicycle from Birmingham,
Bicycle (as in the one you never forget how to ride), thank you
for bringing this up. I can understand you're a little nervous by
the prospect of a long-term relationship with another girl. (A fear
stemming perhaps from the fact that all too many lesbians have so
much difficulty being in long-term relationships with
themselves...) but now you've decided that this is what you want,
go for it! There is nothing more utterly soul-consuming and complex
as having a girlfriend.
The 'lowdown' is a little too 80s for my liking so I'm going to
give you something I prepared earlier.
A to Z of Lesbian Relationships (Part 2)
N is for naked
The thing that girls should always be more of... And no it is
never acceptable to spell it as 'nekked'
O is for orgasms
Lots of them, all the time, everywhere, totally on tap. Here is
to (almost) never faking it again!
P is for pink the colour and Pink the
We know she's not gay but we can't help ourselves and the colour
may not be your favourite, but it is inextricably ours.
Q is for quickies
As in the ones that just became a whole lot easier to have!
R is for rollercoaster.
R was initially going to be for relationship but that seemed too
basic and they're often the same thing.
S is for Shane.
T is for Tomb Raider
Because depending on your level of geekiness, either Lara or
Angelina was every self-respecting lesbian's first crush.
U is for U-haul
In case you don't know what to bring on a second date, bring
everything! (Yet again, Bicycle, if you don't get this, you're not
quite ready just yet...)
V is for Venus
Or vagina, but that's just downright rude.
W is for wet.
X is for Xena: Warrior Princess
Because Xena and Gabrielle were SO doing it!
Y is for the chromosome you won't be
Z is for zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
The familiar noise of a vibrator and/or the post-coital
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