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COOKIES & PRIVACY POLICY

How honest should you be?

The latest installment of relationship advice from DIVA Date.

Thu, 05 Apr 2012 14:24:24 GMT | Updated 1 years today

We all love to talk and share and if you're setting up an online dating profile, you want to make sure you only get the right kind of women contacting you.

 

You may well be tempted to put everything out in the open from the start so that there are no surprises, which is fair enough, but there are something that should really be left out of the profile.

 

On Diva Date, the fact that your profile is sent to potential partners with an indication of how compatible you are is already working in your favour, but you can still screw up your chances by saying the wrong thing at the same time.

 

Your profile is something you have complete control over, so what you put in the little boxes as answers to the questions (or in your "what my partner should know about me" space) needs to reflect the things you feel are most important - the things that represent the most significant part of your life.

 

For example, if you use your personal statement area to talk about how you're recently come out of a relationship, your potential partners are going to be thinking one thing - "baggage". Talk about your work too much and they may be thinking "does she not have a life outside of work then?" and let's not even talk about women who use their profiles to vent about their exes (yes, some actually do).

 

There's no need to tell people about your darker sides, bad habits or insecurities. Save that for when you're dating. Keep it fun, keep it upbeat and keep it short enough to not cause profile blindness in the women who read it.

 

In all seriousness, online dating should really be a means to the end. You don't need to write essays in your profile to try and appeal to every possible woman out there and actually, less is more. Try to give the main points about who you are and what you do and save the talk for when you're emailing, talking on the phone or, better yet, are out on your first date. Summer is coming, after all.

 

Do you really want to be spending it at home reading lengthy profiles? Didn't think so.

 

Start dating!

 

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  • Lucy 'Caramel-amigobear' Conway - Thu, 05 Apr 2012 15:19:27 GMT -

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    I don't think you should encourage people that "less is more". The majority of profiles I've seen on dating sites barely have any information about the person at all and usually end in "I can't define myself in a box so please message me to find out more". This is incredibly annoying because then when you message them you don't have anything interesting in their profile to talk about! So Lesbians, please, less is not more. Write as much about your selves as possible! And then I can have a few strands to start a decent conversation with.