"I've been in an open relationship with my two girlfriends for
17 months now," writes Kayleigh Green, 24.
Lucky you, I think.
Two girlfriends and an open relationship, she's obviously not
short of a bunk-up. But Kayleigh is asexual, which she defines as
having no sexual attraction towards others, adding as a
caveat: "But asexuality is like most things in life in that
everyone has their own definition and experiences it
Broadly defined as a lack of sexual attraction to others or a lack
of interest in sex, it's thought that 1% of the world's population
is asexual, although there has been so little research done on the
subject, this figure could well be a lot higher.
What's the big deal, you may be wondering. I'm sure if you
thought back to a particularly heart-breaking, post-break-up moment
from your past, had a genie come along and announced, "I can make
you asexual!", you would've jumped at the chance. How great it
would be to cut out the complicated stuff: the heartache, the
jealousy, the distraction. Except it's not so great, according to
the majority of asexuals who report feelings of isolation,
loneliness and social exclusion from a society increasingly driven
by sex and sexuality.
With many confusing asexuality with celibacy, asexuals have been
plagued by misconceptions for years. Broadly speaking, celibacy is
a choice, while asexuality is a condition. But in the last few
years this misunderstood group has begun to find its place in
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NB: The photo that accompanies this online piece is not of
Kayleigh, but of another interviewee.