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COOKIES & PRIVACY POLICY

No sex please, we're homoromantic

We chat to the lesbians who say no to sex

Julia Thompson

Mon, 26 Mar 2012 11:25:23 GMT | Updated 4 years today

"I've been in an open relationship with my two girlfriends for 17 months now," writes Kayleigh Green, 24.

 

Lucky you, I think.

 

Two girlfriends and an open relationship, she's obviously not short of a bunk-up. But Kayleigh is asexual, which she defines as having no sexual attraction towards others, adding as a caveat: "But asexuality is like most things in life in that everyone has their own definition and experiences it differently."


Broadly defined as a lack of sexual attraction to others or a lack of interest in sex, it's thought that 1% of the world's population is asexual, although there has been so little research done on the subject, this figure could well be a lot higher.

 

What's the big deal, you may be wondering. I'm sure if you thought back to a particularly heart-breaking, post-break-up moment from your past, had a genie come along and announced, "I can make you asexual!", you would've jumped at the chance. How great it would be to cut out the complicated stuff: the heartache, the jealousy, the distraction. Except it's not so great, according to the majority of asexuals who report feelings of isolation, loneliness and social exclusion from a society increasingly driven by sex and sexuality.


With many confusing asexuality with celibacy, asexuals have been plagued by misconceptions for years. Broadly speaking, celibacy is a choice, while asexuality is a condition. But in the last few years this misunderstood group has begun to find its place in society.

 

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NB: The photo that accompanies this online piece is not of Kayleigh, but of another interviewee.

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  • Sara Harnetty - Fri, 07 Dec 2012 04:38:49 GMT -

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    Condition? Asexuality is just an orientation.