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COOKIES & PRIVACY POLICY

Poles apart?

We talk to women on both sides of the debate about the politics of pole-dancing

Jane Czyzselska

Wed, 03 Aug 2011 13:20:48 GMT | Updated 1 years today

The woman on the stage in front of me is wearing a garment that only loosely fits the dictionary definition of the word "dress". It's probably more accurate to describe it as ornamental dental floss, wrapped strategically around the contours of her svelte body. Wearing killer heels, "Danni" is strolling slowly around a steel pole. One hand is on her hip, the other grips the phallic pole. She leans back against it, cocks her head, squats down in front of my table and passes her left hand between her legs. I'm not quite sure where to look.
 
There's something thrillingly disconcerting about my first visit to Sweet Dreams, London's newest ladies-only burlesque, pole and table-dancing night. Alongside my two companions I'm here with what appears to be around 100 women, all seated politely at tables, quaffing an assortment of alcoholic drinks. A succession of women - some are slim, some curvy, some athletic - take turns to twirl languidly around the pole; the darkened room is quiet and the atmosphere is charged. Like a light bulb, I'm turned on. But why am I feeling guilty?
 
At the end of each dance, the room erupts as the audience shows its appreciation with clapping, cheering and overexcited whooping. There's something profoundly liberating about being one of a group of aroused women in a public space. I'm not used to this feeling so I try to figure out what's making me buzz. There's an illicit quality to tonight's performance - women, regardless of our sexuality, are not socially groomed to accept and enjoy our lust without men present - and damn, some of the women here are sexy. A conversation with my friend D helps to clarify things. D says there's an old tradition of women getting together to pass on sexual tips that has been all but lost in our culture. She thinks there's a kind of hunger for it. It's the root of belly-dancing, which is thought to have been originally performed by and for women, and ritual gatherings like Zanzibar's kidumbak, in which older women prepared girls for marriage. For her, women-only clubs that celebrate other women's erotic skill are a modern representation of this tradition. Well that makes me feel better about lusting over the performers while they work their text-book teasing moves.

The first of the burlesque acts, Beatrix Von Bourbon, strides onto the stage to an esoteric soundtrack. With her 1940s hair-do, furry cape, strong Nordic cheekbones and a veritable collage of tattoos on her pale skin, she strikes quite a pose. Not the kind of poses that would suggest she'd be willing to give it up for us despite stripping down to an elegant set of vintage bra and panties. I'm captivated by her ice queen poise, style and presence, but the volume on my arouse-o-meter has been turned down.

 

Read the rest of this feature in the September issue of DIVA on sale 4 August.

 

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