Hattie met Sal through mutual friends in 2009 and the two
began a relationship a few months later.
"Sal was going through a bad time when we got together,"
explains. "A relationship she'd had with someone she knew
work had turned sour and she'd been outed and lost her job.
was a lot of homophobia involved. She had gone through a lot
stress, had self-harmed and was prone to depression. Perhaps I
naïve, but I thought I could save her from her past and provide
with a real, loving, caring relationship."
At first the relationship seemed stable, but the cracks started
appear after a few months, when the couple moved in
"When we had disagreements Sal would become hysterical. She
would threaten to kill herself and she would self-harm, all
of my 'lack of understanding' of what she was going through,"
Friends and family warned that the relationship was unhealthy
Hattie was determined to stick by Sal. "I loved her and I wanted
best for her. I thought, 'She doesn't really mean this, I have to
into account what's happened and rationalise everything'."
In spite of her accusations, Sal did not want to let Hattie go
"I was told: 'Don't ever leave me. You're the best thing that's
happened to me. If you leave me, I don't know what I'm going to
where I'm going to go, I just want somebody to love me…'."