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| angel |
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Posted: 28/07/2010 |
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IP: LOGGED |
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| hi i'm just writing to see if anyone could share some information or their experiences when trying to start a family. my partner and i have discussed starting a family and we have done some research only to find that the process of spern donation isn't as easy as we expected it to be. the websites and clinics we have research all seem to cost quite abit of money starting anywhere from £400 - £4000 and from our research we have found out you may have to go through 6 cycles before it maybe a success. sperm donation is the way we have decided to go as we wish to have no other influence and be the parents. so if anyone could pass any information on to us about free sperm donation or as i said their experiences then we would be ever so greatfull.
many thanks
angel |
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| BD |
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Posted: 29/07/2010 |
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IP: LOGGED |
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| hah. you can't have a baby on the cheap, you know. kids eat money and in the case of same-sex would-be parents, they start eating before they're even born. on the whole, 'free' sperm comes with the involvement of the man who donates it. seems fair enough to me. you may find some very generous guy who's prepared to donate for the love of lesbians, but i'd be very wary of a deal like that. how many other lesbians has he 'helped out'? are there many in your area? bear in mind that your child could end up growing up closely with other kids of lesbian parents in your community who are his/her half-siblings - and none of you might know it. and, what if this guy changes his mind and decided he wants involvement? or pressures you/your partner for 'real sex'? these situations have happened. another thing to bear in mind - clinic sperm is tested both for viability and disease. 'free' sperm is not. you will need to be very sure that your donor has been tested for stds and is committed to safe sex/no sex for the duration of your donation agreement with him, and you will very likely have no idea if he is fertile or a good match for you. all that said, people do still go this route - have a look at the rainbow family discussion forums at gingerbeer.co.uk. they have very good information and links provided by members. |
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| BD |
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Posted: 03/08/2010 |
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IP: LOGGED |
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| and for goodness sake, check out your legal position and get a legal agreement drawn up before you conceive! there's a horror story about this unwinding in the gingerbeer forums at the moment (thread title: help, it's all gone sour). |
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| Vik and Emma |
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Posted: 02/09/2010 |
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IP: LOGGED |
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| hey we are a lesbian couple and we have discussed having children in the future and too investigated the clinics. we also found them to be shockingly expensive and so also considered the turkey baster route lol but then we read something that worried us. we read if u are not married and do it the turkey baster way by law the parent who didnt carry cannot go on the birth certificate as the other parent but if u do it through a clinic they can even if u are not married. \then we came across an article in diva the one where they interview all the candidates before the next election someone said that u can get help to conceive on the nhs. this is not free i doubt but should be cheaper. your doctor can refer u we are seeing it as a good option for future. we hope this helps god bless x |
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